Tomorrow I become a woman

Author: Aiwanose Odafen, a Nigerian writer.

Published: 2022- Format Read: Audible

Other available formats: Kindle, Hardcover and paperback

Tomorrow I Become a Woman, Aiwanose Odafen’s debut novel, tells the compelling yet all-too-familiar story of Obianuju, a young woman growing up in 1970s Nigeria who endures the harsh realities of patriarchy. Obianuju begins her journey as a promising university student with dreams of pursuing a master’s degree after graduation. However, these ambitions are abruptly cut short when she succumbs to societal pressures and marries Gozie, a handsome and charismatic bachelor highly regarded within their church.

At just 21 years old, Obianuju’s initial hesitations about marrying Gozie are overshadowed by her mother’s relentless pleas for her to settle down. What follows is a tumultuous marriage, with Gozie’s authoritarian nature stripping Obianuju of her agency and autonomy. While her brothers do their best to protect her, her mother plays a central role in sustaining the patriarchy that binds Obianuju. Viewing Gozie as a reflection of her long-lost late brother, Ikenna, Obianuju’s mother becomes his staunch supporter, scolding her daughter whenever she speaks out and siding with Gozie no matter the circumstances.

This novel serves as a stark reminder of how women can perpetuate patriarchal structures, sometimes becoming active participants in the cycle of abuse. Obianuju’s mother and the women from her church epitomize this troubling reality. Yet, the book also offers nuance, reminding us that Obianuju’s mother belonged to a different era, one in which her understanding of gender roles and societal expectations was deeply entrenched. Despite this context, the lack of love and support Obianuju receives from her mother throughout the story is heartbreaking.

Obianuju, however, symbolizes hope and resistance. She raises her children differently, determined to break the generational cycle of oppression. Amid mounting pressure from her family and church, she finds the strength to take extraordinary action to reclaim her freedom. Her story is a testament to the complexity, resilience, and courage of women who fight for their autonomy even in the bleakest circumstances.

Throughout the novel, I found myself deeply moved, particularly by the dynamics between Obianuju and her mother. At times, I felt distraught over her mother’s unwavering complicity in Obianuju’s suffering. While the book begins at a slower pace, it eventually gains momentum, becoming nearly impossible to put down. Readers will need patience, but the payoff is well worth it.

Overall, this novel is brilliantly written. Though fictional, it resonates deeply with the lived experiences of many women. It serves as both a tragic reminder of the fragility of women under patriarchy and a powerful narrative of hope and resistance. Aiwanose Odafen has crafted a story that not only highlights the challenges faced by women but also celebrates their strength and determination to rise above them.